‘If you are vibrating on the same frequency as another, it’s only a matter of time til you end up in the same room’
Undoubtedly you’ve heard of the term ‘soul mates’ before, it is thrown around in the media and by people all the time – you’ve probably even alluded to it yourself. But what if I were to say that what you think it means isn’t actually totally accurate? The idea that your ‘soul mate’ is your meant-to-be, happily ever after, Mr/Mrs Right… you get the idea. While this seems like I’ve just declared some terribly bad news, bear with me… It is in fact it actually a lovely lesson to learn and helps to make sense of all our past relationships – both the good and the bad!
Often the soul mate connection is mistaken for what is actually the life partner connection, the soul we have shared many past lives with in a romantic relationship (check out this post for more information on past lives). But there are many different types of soul connections that we experience throughout our lifetimes that help us to learn more about ourselves, develop and grow on our heart path/life mission (more on that here) . For now, I’m going to delve a little into the three most common romantic relationship types to offer some clarity on your past and present relationships along with the lessons that you can take away from them.
Your soul mate is ‘everything’ that you want, but only on paper. They seem to check all the right boxes on your mental list but still you’re left wondering what piece of the puzzle is missing, creating a battle between your logical mind and your intuition. Well, this is because you do in fact share a deep, soul connection but they don’t ignite your passion. Whatever initial passion existed will eventually fizzle out, developing into more of a brother/sister/best friend type relationship.
This is because our soul mate has often shared several lives with us with previous connections, they may have been a lover in a past life, but aren’t meant to be our life partner in this one. We share a relationship with them to learn life lessons together, gain confidence within romantic relationships and then we move on.
Our soul mate makes us feel comfortable and provides us with a way to establish romantic self confidence while still exploring who we are. Often we meet our soul mates as one of our first relationships to help us establish what we want in a life partner. This relationship allows us to realise that what you think you want or ‘should’ want isn’t always what we need to progress on our life mission.
Ahhh… The twin flame. Many of us who are lucky (unlucky?) enough to experience several romantic relationships will come across our twin flame or mirror soul. Sometimes you will experience an intense feeling of knowing them from ‘before’ without understanding exactly how – this is due to a deep past life connection. This relationship brings about passionate highs but also deep, intense lows as it triggers all our insecurities, breaks us down, creates a highly addictive dependency between both souls and affects our ability to problem solve due to the blind passion we experience.
Often these relationships are toxic, with friends and family realising that something isn’t right, but you’ll have to figure this one out for yourself – it’s part of the evolution of your soul.
Once you’ve gotten past the initial excitement and invigoration, you will eventually realise that this person brings out the absolute worst in you – but don’t be disheartened. It is a difficult road, but this relationship brings to light all the wounds we need to be healed as we rebuild ourselves to become much stronger and more attuned to our own life mission. Also, from this void miracles can often happen. This is a wonderful time to manifest (more on Manifestation here) to bring us closer to our life partner.
Finally, the life partner – the soul that we share a joint life mission with that will take a lifetime to complete, we have often met with our life partners throughout many of our previous lives and worked on missions together. We can recognise that all the relationships we experience before this prepare us to evolve and ready us to acknowledge our life partner. Separately, both souls have done the work to learn from past relationships and evolve as individuals. Together they experience a deep, steadfast and reliable love that makes them feel at peace with the values, goals, thoughts and emotions that are shared.
While they are strong together, each person supports the other’s individual goals and admires their dedication and supports their achievements wholeheartedly. This relationship is also a time for deep healing and self-evolvement.
Our life partner will ultimately help us to recognise our own potential as a person and help us to reach our individual life mission, supporting healthy independence. They fulfil our needs, wants and desires through the yin/yang energy balance.
Now that you’ve read through this list of relationship types, reflect on your past relationships and think about if you can label each one according to the list above.
How does this make you feel about these past/current relationships?
Are you able to learn from these experiences and benefit from them?
How have you changed as a person because of all these relationships?
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Love and light x